'Other Things'

NOTE #1:  I downloaded Chrome since a lot of people claim they can't comment on Chrome.  It worked perfectly fine when I was logged into Intense Debate and when I wasn't.  I also went to Intense Debate--which I hardly ever do, and saw that I had severa comments in moderation.  My bad.

Notee #2:  I am aware that Intense Debate is tripping.  It's taking forever to load and I'm not in a position to do anything about it.  But this is just God's way of telling y'all to exercise PATIENCE...Except if you're on an iPhone because it literally will not load--at least on my phone it won't.

On two different sites yesterday, 'other things' came up.  If you don't know what 'other things' are, keep reading.  Context clues are our friend.  Here's the thing with OT, I am not quite sure why women are so quick to attach an interest in OT just to jail.  Listen, I know a decent amount of people.  I'm also one of the people who others love to talk to.  They tell me all sorts of wonderful personal details.  Blessing and curse.

I have heard many men and women admit to having an appreciation for OT. None of the men have ever been to jail. So when women only link an interest or preference for OT to jail, I don't think they are thinking big picture. I don't know where men who've never being incarcerated learned about OT.  Hell, maybe easy access to corn, with a 'p', has made a lot of things seem mainstream. 

We've all heard the stories of young women who maintained virginity by allowing OT.  It's not new.  I just think people are less shy about wanting it and doing it--just like oral favors.  Hell, when I was coming up, giving oral favors to a man was something white chicks did.  (Though apparently, Tamar still rides with that lie.)  And if a teen wanted those favors, the assumption was that he must be used to white women.  Illogical, but it fed into a stereotype about white women.  Not until people started admitting it publicly did it become as socially acceptable as it is now in Negronia...and Unicornia.

Further, under this 'jail equals gay' logic, how do gay men who never go to jail discover their gayness?  Oh so some men are made gay and others are born that way--when the argument is convenient?  Does gay shyt go on in jails?  Sure.  It also goes on in juvenile detention centers too. 

Is a man's interest in OT a sure indicator of his true chexuality?  Him wanting to do it with a woman?  Nerp and I wrote about this years ago.  Him wanting to do it with a man?  Sure.  But if he and the woman he is with agree to do OT, that is their business.  The closeted men I know, did/do everything to make themselves appear as straight as a ruler--like chex with excessive amounts of female partners.

For shyts and giggles, let's say a man's interest in giving or receiving action in the OT area makes him gay.  If this is because it's something he can do with a man, under that logic, any woman who enjoys a man giving her oral favors is gay because it's something she could have done to her by another woman.  See that logic?  But you use that same logic on women who look for signs of whether a man is gay, and they look at you like you're crazy.  And let's extend that to women who have been in jail.  Are they gay because they enjoy oral favors post jail?

No matter the chex act a man is into, he is gay when he is gay.  If you find yourself questioning it, be out.  AND if you find yourself with a man who is on some 'do it or else' mission, be more fixated on that attitude than the act cus the big picture is that he would try to bully you in other areas and doesn't respect your comfort (pun intended).  I'll be over here comfortably sitting on my 'exit', questioning men who consistently choose to spend more time with other men (and children) than women.