Angela & Marcus
(Originally posted: 11/03/2009)
We all know what happened with Ross and Rachel, with Winnie and Kevin, and with Luke and Laura. But what happened with Angela and Marcus? Yesterday, Monnie (She changed her blog to That Gumbo Life.) wrote about how Angela handled their break-up well. She rolled out when she realized Marcus was still stuck on Robin’s character–whose name escapes me now.
But in the end, what would have happened??
Let me tell you how it would have played out. At the end of Boomerang, when Marcus went to Angela’s office, months had past. Angela had chosen to put Angela first. She was climbing up the corporate ladder and looking great while doing it. Marcus? I forget what else he was doing beside teaching those too grown kids. But the bottom line is that the circumstances had changed. The way that office scene played out, Angela had become hardened because of her experience with him and her decision to be a successful business woman. Is it just me or did the dialog there make it seems like she’d accepted that she couldn’t have both? She could not be Ms. Corner Office and Mrs. Wifey too?
They would have gotten back together. (Because he would be her soft spot. We always want the people who hurt us most to decide, on their own, to make it right, and actually make it right. Then we learn better.) Things would have gone well for about the first three months. But in month four, Angela would have started to trust him. She wouldn’t threaten him for looking at other women as she did in the closing scene. But as she began to settle in and trust him, he would take this as a sign that she was either taking him fro granted or didn’t care enough. But he would still start looking for rings. (Not so sure about the ring part. He might look but not buy.)
Just as he picked out the perfect ring, he’d get cold feet. Sensing his hesitance, she’d start rethinking her feelings and his commitment to the relationship. Her behavior would change. She’d be just as pleasant but there would be something a bit less warm behind her smiles.
Then Marcus would meet someone. Someone much younger who wasn’t heading up a corporate ladder. They’d have lunches and at first she’d see him as a big brother. But that would only last for a week. Next thing Marcus would be taking secret calls from this young woman. The young woman would quickly forget her place and try to move Angela out of the Future Mrs. Marcus Graham spot. (BTW, I know the real Marcus Graham.)
By the end of the year immediately following the end of the movie, they would be broken up forever. Why? Angela changed but Marcus ran back expecting the old Angela. Angela went back expecting a new Marcus when really, all she got was a Marcus whose ‘ho’ was in remission. (He too went back to what he was comfortable being and existing in relationships.)
November 3, 2009 @ 12:52 am
Is Boomerang on Netflix OnDemand? Because clearly, I need to look at it again. At first, when I was reading Monnie’s post, I said “yeah” Angela put her foot down. I could relate because that definitely woulda been me. Lay back in the cut, observe whodikkery once (maybe twice) and then roll out. And truth is, if I truly loved him, MAYBE after some time and a dose of “ack right” I might listen to what he had to say.
But then, I actually watched the clip and I forgot about how Marcus straight played her ass in that kitchen. My body became hot when I watched that grand nukfuttery. There was no amount of “revelation” that he could’ve had to make me take him back. You don’t give that shullbit as an explanation and then decide that you love that person. I’d never trust him and I’d never forget that moment.
I also forgot about how “hard” Angela became. I see it differently though, because I don’t think THAT much time passed for her to become hardened. I think that Angela softened up after a few weeks/months, thinking that he’d changed but that he ended up screwing around again. I can’t envision the other woman in my head because I don’t think that it’ll be anyone special. When he was in that kitchen, his true self was revealed and no community service w/ some bad ass kids is gonna change that.
November 3, 2009 @ 12:52 am
Found it! About to watch. May come back and revisit my comment in de mornin’. 🙂
November 3, 2009 @ 8:10 am
Angela Winbush and Stephanie Mills would be disappointed to know that you have not learned to respect the power of love.
I think your ending is as probable as the happily ever after one in the film, perhaps even less so. I think his true self was revealed when he came crawling back, not when he was overcome with ambition and the chase. Those are things men do to occupy their time until we’re ready. And when he was ready, the real him showed up at her office, in my view.
November 3, 2009 @ 9:05 am
Sadly, I agree that this is the way it probably would have turned out.
She took him back at the first meeting and he decided that she would move in. Way too fast IMO.
@ BT
I believe in the power of love, however reality usually trumps love.
November 3, 2009 @ 9:19 am
Whose reality? It’s all relative. So just as the ending could go as it did in the movie (in an uncompressed timeline), so it could also go the way of Ms. Maxine Smart’s synopsis.
November 3, 2009 @ 10:14 am
After getting thru most of Boomerang last night, here are my nagging issues:
#1: Why was Marcus more concerned about the hammertime going on on Lela Rachon’s feet than he was about the stuffed animals all over the room.
#2: During the “this is what sex smells like scene”, why did the scentologist not duck? He saw Strange’s panties headed right at him?
#3: Was everyone using Fashion Fair back then? No one’s foundation was quite….right… And what ever happened to FF? Do they still run the ads in Jet and Ebony?
November 3, 2009 @ 10:14 am
You prolly believe that Darius and Nina worked out too, dontcha?
November 3, 2009 @ 10:32 am
Actually, no. I don’t think they worked out at all. In fact, I don’t even think they lasted more than a couple months after the kiss in the rain.
November 3, 2009 @ 10:58 am
Marcus had character issue. He didn’t value people which enabled him to decieve women. I believe people can change their character but Marcus appeared to change for a woman. Wet noodles are dangerous.
November 3, 2009 @ 11:15 am
I DON’T AGREE (completely that is). Say Marcus took a month of GOODNESS & LIGHT. Rebuked his demons, turned from his wicked ways… Say he learned to look less @ feet and more toward the lamp that lights their path. Say he found out that he was loved and forgiven by a forgiving God who not only created him but his help mate too. & in honoring her he honored himself & his Holy creator. Say he began to value the good looks from his lover and lost the lust for fleeting fun & the guilt it entails. Say it motivates him night and day. Say he is that… Prayerful holy peace loving and a master of relationships…
November 3, 2009 @ 11:28 am
This right here. Character issues do not resolve themselves for other people
November 3, 2009 @ 11:30 am
I think Darius and Nina actually worked out. They both messed up. They both tried to reconcile. They went through resentment, broke up for an extended time (1 year).
When Nina came on the stage, I believe she was about to close that chapter, hence, her discarding of her journal. Darius ran after her, because he realized he didn’t want it to be over-though time and distance (she was in NY) had already shown that it was likely over already.
His humility (running after her-symbolized by rain) shows that he had grown as an individual, but was still interested in creating an us.
Scream at me.
Bond. BlkBond.
November 3, 2009 @ 11:46 am
“Character issues do not resolve themselves for other people.”
CHUUCH!
November 3, 2009 @ 12:02 pm
See I think she was different but he was the same.
November 3, 2009 @ 12:03 pm
But Marcus wasn’t ready. He just had no place soft to land. So he went back to the last woman who was genuinely nice to him. But once he got his ‘swagger’ back, he would be wandering.
November 3, 2009 @ 12:04 pm
Exactly. He didn’t work to get her back. He just eluded to suffocating. Gimme a break. He didn’t invest in getting her back.
November 3, 2009 @ 12:05 pm
Amen!!!!! He didn’t change at all. He only wanted Angela back for what she could do for him. She could make him ‘feel’ better or at least get him back to feeling like himself–much like she did after Jacqueline dissed him when they got together the first time.
November 3, 2009 @ 12:09 pm
FF is still rocking in some circles. I know a dude who sells it. And the chicks in the Ebony FF fashion show still use it.
Also, Marcus was concerned about feet because it was easier. See, if he cared about character, he’d be opening himself up for women to judge him by his character-which he knew was lacking or shaky at best. But if he kept their focus on surface things (perfect apartment, clothes, coats, job, etc.), then he could feel safe viewing them from the same surface lens.
November 3, 2009 @ 12:11 pm
Darius got caught up in the moment. Once the rain stopped and the audience was gone, I believe he would have had second thoughts. Nina was a smart cookie though so she too would have been having second thoughts. As a result, she wouldn’t have put all her eggs in his basket. By doing so, she would have drawn him in. However, he’d realize he was being drawn in and retreat. Soooo, I think they would have lasted anywhere from 2 weeks to 2 months.
November 3, 2009 @ 12:12 pm
He didn’t even see his ways as wicked.
November 3, 2009 @ 12:13 pm
Well if you can make up an ending so can I…
November 3, 2009 @ 12:24 pm
In your plot, he doesn’t change for Angela. I am sure a person can change for self. I don’t believe a man/woman can or will change his character for a woman/man.
Boomerang’s plot is him changing for her, which is Hollywood delusion.
November 3, 2009 @ 12:50 pm
I don’t agree. Marcus changed with no audience and for a sustained period of time. THEN went back and saw Halle after he’d established a period of time of living a changed life.
He didn’t quit the job, go to the community center, and then show up at Halle’s job in a week’s time. If was MONTHS and MONTHS later. What more does a man have to do to show change?
November 3, 2009 @ 1:00 pm
How do we know that? We don’t know what he was doing during that period of time before he came slinking back. He coulda been interviewing Angela replacements but they all fell through.
For me, he would have to maintain the changed behavior for about 9 months to a year–with no relapses. And frankly, if he’s even slightly schizophrenic, he could pretend to be changed for more than 9 months.
November 3, 2009 @ 1:06 pm
How the heck do you get slightly schizophrenic? o_0 LOL
November 3, 2009 @ 1:08 pm
Yo why does the audio voice of the responses sound like the faux Johnny Cochrin from Seinfeld. LOL Heresay! You’re out o order! This whole blog is out o order. Cracking up.
November 3, 2009 @ 1:10 pm
In my mind that is. lol If I wrote a book it would be called, “Pitfalls of an Introvert” But it wouldn’t sell so good cuz not too many people would get it. hahaha
November 3, 2009 @ 1:11 pm
I think most women will never trust a man that lied to and cheated on her. My great aunt and uncle have been married 60+ years. He cheated when they were in their early 20’s. Considering that my mother was a baby when this occurred and I know the details, you understand infidelity lives forever.
At their 60th anniversary party he said how much he loved their life together and how the years got better. She said folks get divorced when they should stay together because at least you know the dog you have. The next dog will just have new problems.
I think after the man dies having never did dirty again will women have consensus on his change.
November 3, 2009 @ 1:13 pm
Some schizophrenics can pretend to be damn near any personality for a period of time much longer than the normal person. A normal person can pretend to be something to get what they want (maximum six months). But most normal people can’t fake it to maintain what they got while faking it the first six months. Certain types of schizophrenics, they can pretend for a very long time.
November 3, 2009 @ 1:28 pm
TY. I had no idea a schizophrenic could behave like that for that long. Ms. Smart is like Chinese arithmetic on em. lol
November 3, 2009 @ 1:35 pm
I know that the same way you know he hasn’t changed. I don’t… and we’re both guessing.
Bottom line is the men here seem to think change is possible; the women here think that he was so super-hoish that there is no ability to be reformed or remade, for love or otherwise.
Those are the lines drawn in the sand here. And it’s disingenuous, but hella entertaining.
November 3, 2009 @ 1:43 pm
The difference in opinions is probably based on extensive experience. From your standpoint, maybe you have thought you changed or thought you saw your friends change. But from our standpoint, maybe we all have thought we saw men change only to have them settle back into their REAL CHARACTER once they got what they wanted.
I think the issue with Marcus is one that goes beyond being able to control his behavior but one that speaks to his character which is way deeper than behaviors. He doesn’t see he has an issue with his character. He probably believes all he has to do is take his penis home every night. But his character is one that’s built on using other people to achieve his short and long-term goals. He screwed Ms. Eloise to get ahead. He screwed those women over for a short-term ego boost. All behaviors that are linked to troublesome character.
November 3, 2009 @ 1:45 pm
I believe women “pretend” to get hard when, in actuality they just want to be cherished. Angela was TRULY happy painting and being with children. she seemed one of those free spirits we all know at least one of. Free spirits can’t keep their wings bound for long because all the life would be choked out of them.
In my mind I believe that four months was not enough time for Angela to change who she was based on a broken heart. She was pulling a Bush 2004 and REACTING instead of being proactive. That said, the Angela Marcus fell in love with was still there waiting to breathe again.
Women gonna get tired of trying to hold on to that being hard stuff. Being hard and alone is gonna suck.
Angela was a BOSS! ROFL!
November 3, 2009 @ 1:52 pm
You don’t become “hard” in 4 months. That was a defense mechanism.
November 3, 2009 @ 1:53 pm
I believe the real him showed up too. Marcus wasn’t the type of dude to be all Ralph Tresvant when he wasn’t sure of the outcome.
November 3, 2009 @ 1:55 pm
Most men lay it down eventually and when they do…they make a good choice of the woman they want to be with for the rest of their life. Ask BT. ROFL!
November 3, 2009 @ 1:55 pm
LOVE IS THE REALITY.
November 3, 2009 @ 1:57 pm
Who determines what is a character issue?
November 3, 2009 @ 1:58 pm
a ho in remission? Hahahaaha. Possibly
November 3, 2009 @ 1:58 pm
YES.YES.YES! WITHOUT AN AUDIENCE! That is a measure of a MAN who is working on doing better…being better. He knew his ish was stank and put in the work to clean it up.
November 3, 2009 @ 2:06 pm
Exactly! I’m Marcus Graham’s brother! They call me BTdy Graham. *bah-dum-ching!*
November 3, 2009 @ 2:14 pm
You may also ask Robby, Cojoe and Weezy. Usually the only people believing that a man who played the field doesn’t have a plan for his future as a family man is a bunch of women who don’t believe they will ever be the chosen one or people who have been hurt so bad there doesn’t seem to be any coming back from it. BELIEVE IN LOVE!
I hate all yall by the way. ROFL!
November 3, 2009 @ 2:15 pm
The problem with your synopsis here is that in both cases, the sneaky conniving dude is the one at fault for corrupting poor innocent women.
When a man changes, he changes. If you believe a man who has ho’d either will always be a ho or has sigificant character flaws that God, time, and maturity can’t fix, then you fundamentally disagree that a person has the ability to change. And if so, hey, that’s fine.. your belief, you own it. But I don’t believe that, at all. I have seen men CHANGE. I have seen women CHANGE. Ho’s can be made into housewifes and good husbands. It isn’t easy, but certainly possible.
I admit that I say all this never but I’ve never had “Marcus Graham game” nor the audience of women he had, so who knows what I’d think if I was him. But having seen men like him my whole life, I have seen them change when SHE comes along.
November 3, 2009 @ 2:34 pm
I beg to differ Mr. Thanksgiving-itus. ROFL!
November 3, 2009 @ 2:39 pm
I still stand by that I wouldn’t have taken him back. It was a clean break… no marriage, no kids… just clean. I wouldn’t see the point in trying to build something from distrust and hurt. Plus, it wasn’t even like they had invested a whole lot into the relationship. I’m not saying that the possibility of his change wasn’t there, I’m saying is that I would have had a hard time trusting him with his history. And he shouldn’t have to be in a relationship feeling like he ALWAYS has to prove himself, cause I’d be on that azz everytime he was late and didn’t call.
November 3, 2009 @ 2:56 pm
Yep, I don’t invest that kind of energy in folk I don’t have children or real estate with. Would he change? Maybe, maybe not, but unless I’m on the pension I’m not sticking around to find out.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:17 pm
lol
November 3, 2009 @ 3:18 pm
Exactly! She wasn’t trying to play the fool again.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:23 pm
I agree. I believe the real him was revealed when he was man enough to walk away from Jaqueline and tried to get Angela back.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:26 pm
SAY DAT!
November 3, 2009 @ 3:32 pm
I have to agree with Monnie and BT on this one. Marcus was attractive, successful, and smart both in the corporate and ho world. He could’ve easily stayed with the company and continue to live the “ho” lifestyle. IMO, Marcus knew he had a good thing and was willing to change for the woman he loved. Why is it hard to believe that a man can change just as easy as a woman?
I’ve learned to keep my heart open and leave behind old baggage.
Love is the reality and GENINUE LOVE conquers and overcomes infatuation.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:42 pm
Darius and Nina had trust issues. Trust issues always turn into something bigger later on.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:43 pm
We know you wouldn’t Erica. You’re hard for real. Your kinda hard is 39 years in the making…not 4 months. LOL!
November 3, 2009 @ 3:44 pm
Let me get out Toni’s way cuz she SAID.THAT!
November 3, 2009 @ 3:49 pm
And those men may not have been rotten to their core like Marcus. Remember, he only came to Angela and BACK TO Angela when things didn’t go well with Jacqueline.
As for BT, we all know he was married with seven kids years before he ‘came out’ as married.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:51 pm
And no trust issues existed between Marcus and Angela?? He was stoking the flames of his lust for Jacqueline while Angela was damned near living with him. Huh?
November 3, 2009 @ 3:52 pm
But where does basic respect and human decency come into this? Could he change? Maybe but not for a woman. For himself. Then he would go out and find a woman to fit the new him. He’d always pine away for Angela but he’d never have her.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:52 pm
The observer. What may seem like a character issue to you may not to me and vice versa.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:53 pm
No trust issues existed until the phone call and she took appropriate action when he showed his arse.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:55 pm
You bring up a good point. I have never seen a ho become a bomb housewife. I’ve seen her pretend to get the guy down the aisle…A guy who had a history of dealing with ho-ish women and who came from a ho-ish momma. In one case, to this day, well into their marriage, she cheats. She can’t turn off her desire for strange d*ck. Or better yet, she can’t pretend to turn it off anymore–now that she’s gotten what she wants.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:56 pm
Did he?? For all we know he was sitting around wallowing in self pity and looking for Angela. This was before Google so maybe it took him a few months to find out where she landed.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:57 pm
She wouldn’t have been alone for long. And I believe if there was a Part 2, we’d see that she’d met a man who was trying to work her out of her hardened shell.
November 3, 2009 @ 3:58 pm
Change is possible. But in this case, I’m not buying it.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:02 pm
Your experiences and observations are different than mine. The hoes who I’ve seen decide to get married did so without a woman in mind. Then they hastily chose the first chick who came along that didn’t annoy the dog shyt out of them. A year into it, they are annoyed and wondering where they went wrong.
Also, Angela knew what kinda dude Marcus was because she worked with him and witnessed some of his antics. So in his mind, on some level, he probably figured she accepted him as he was, hoe and all. Most women on the street don’t know the whole background of a dude. If they take the steps to find out, they don’t do much with the information until the man does to them what he’s been doing to all the woman before them.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:03 pm
She trusted him even though she knew his antics? I think she wanted to trust him despite all that. But I don’t think she really-really did.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:09 pm
She trusted him because she believed in love. You can’t walk around not trusting men right off the bat. Judge them by how they treat YOU. All men don’t treat all women the same. They are not cookie cutter the same as you aren’t. I am “like” Angela in that I trust you right up until you prove to me that I shouldn’t. AND…I am glad I know how to forgive someone because if I didn’t…when my husband broke up with me when we were dating because of logistics there would be no way we would be where we are today. And yes…my husband used to be on the serious prowl but when he met me he knew that ish wouldn’t fly. If yall sit around waiting on a man who DOESN’T play the field then you might as well start dating women.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:12 pm
We don’t know if he was rotten to the core. In fact, we know the opposite just by the interaction with his friends and his friends’ parents. He was just in his ho-stage. ROFL!
November 3, 2009 @ 4:13 pm
Monica, you have a husband and friends who do not cheat on their wives and act like a hos. But how do we explain the 73% of married men who do cheat on their wives? Because of this, I don’t think the majority of “Used To Be Hos” should be trusted to change their ways. Yes, one should believe in love at the risk of passing up a man who has truly changed. But, unfortunately, the numbers show that those men you speak of are the exception to the rule.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:13 pm
Yeah…the ho dudes I know stopped ho’ing when they met THE ONE. I’ll have to have Robby tell yall why he REALLY emailed me from jump.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:14 pm
“If yall sit around waiting on a man who DOESN’T play the field then you might as well start dating women.”
I hate you for that line. I got soup on my keyboard!
As for the rest of the comment, your situation worked out. And I’m not saying NONE of them do. But from my observation and experience, it doesn’t work out that way. Dudes might change. But they don’t wind up with the chick they ‘say’ they changed for. They end up with the next chick while pining after the previous chick.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:16 pm
I think we’re looking at this from perspectives so different we’ll never get on the same page. I soooooooo don’t see it as you do. I believe in love.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:17 pm
This is the key. It’s quite possible that your husband and friends were in a ho-stage. Where as Marcus and his ilk are hoes. It’s their resting state. But Robby and friends, their resting state is Mr. Upstanding dude.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:17 pm
Exactly. And…it’s a case of expectations vs. reality.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:21 pm
No…cuz they told him when he and his boy made up where she was working. Boney T told where she was!
November 3, 2009 @ 4:22 pm
The reality was that he’d been a ho. Therefore, there was no reasonable expectation that he would go cold turkey on hoishness. Angela didn’t even really have to do any due diligence to find out his past behavior. He didn’t even bother hiding it. Marcus is one of those guys chicks think they are going to change. They’re going to either be so sweet or so ‘themselves’ that he wants to be a better man. I’m not that chick. I’m good with someone else doing the legwork and sending his changed ass my way.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:23 pm
Well trust and believe that if she went into Part 2 thinking that she should hold out for a man who never, EVER, played the field…her azz is still single painting blue people. ROFL!
November 3, 2009 @ 4:23 pm
Ah yes. Chris Rock as Boney T. Why was Chris Rock in so many pivotal roles?? Pookie and Boney T?!
November 3, 2009 @ 4:26 pm
Nope. She would have ended up with a dude who made all his major mistakes–if he was a ho–before getting to her. But what about Mokumegane’s comment? If most men cheat, then the ho-ishness doesn’t die cus they meet the one or something close to the one.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:29 pm
Cheating when you’re dating and cheating when you’re married are two ENTIRELY different things!
November 3, 2009 @ 4:31 pm
Again…cheating while dating and cheating while married are two different things!
November 3, 2009 @ 4:33 pm
But if so many marrieds are doing it, then they didn’t give it up for their spouse. Even if only 50% of them married THE ONE they still didn’t give up their ho-ish ways for her.
It’s funny that this is focused on men because I think just as many ho-ish women continue their ho-dome into relationships and marriages. They just don’t get caught as much AND if they do, the men don’t talk about it like women do. The men just usually bounce.
November 3, 2009 @ 4:36 pm
Not trying to be smart, Ms. Smart 🙂 With love you don’t have to buy or conform to the exception. Become the EXCEPTION and simply accept and receive.
I believe in getting to know my partner’s soul, habits and quirks, I also believe and learned to listen to my intuition and with these tools I built LOVE and TRUST. I can’t keep ASSuming, accusing or living life in the past. Our commitment will be to make progress, move forward and create new memories. Plus, I don’t want to get stress lines from worrying but rather get laugh lines from laughing, LOL:-)))))))))
I actually “try” to live by the motto “forgive and forget.” I’m not going to fake the funk that my mind doesn’t wonder down memory lane at times. Now…IF (remember if “if” was a pint, we’ll all be drunk) down the line his azz falls back to his old ways, then I move forward knowing that he is not deserving of the BEST OF ME.
I Love LOVE!!
November 3, 2009 @ 4:36 pm
I don’t think its hard to believe a man can change. I think its crazy to think loving a woman will lead a man to change.
Love changes, evolves, weakens, strengthens over time. The character of a person and what they value are more stable. When that glow of new love starts to change, Marcus will have to rely on his character. If loving her makes him willing to change, a love shift can make him willing to return to his old ways.
November 3, 2009 @ 5:01 pm
That’s true but did people who cheat in a marriage all of a sudden start cheating when they got married? As far as we know, my dad cheated for the first time 35 years into his marriage so do I believe those types exist. But most likely, men who cheated while dating might continue to cheat into marriage. Because I’m too lazy to try and differentiate between those who may be only dating hos and act right once married vs. dating hos that might continue to be husband hos, I just rule all hoish men out. I’m just not good at waiting for some dude to build trust back up.
November 3, 2009 @ 5:08 pm
Some men don’t cheat at all.
Some women don’t cheat at all.
Some men NEVER sow their royal oats and are happily married for 20+ years and then their secretary decides she needs a bill paid and starts flirting with him…HARD and he thinks…WHAT IF?
Some men cheat on their honeymoon.
My point is that just as a man can change for the worst…he can change for the better too and I’m not going to EXPECT that cheating is simply an expectation of same old same old.
November 3, 2009 @ 5:10 pm
I was focusing it on men because we were talking about Marcus being ho-ish.
November 3, 2009 @ 9:40 pm
I ain’t reading all that. I just want to add my little bit.
Sometimes the people are right, the relationship is right, but the timing is off. Maybe one partner needs more time to grow or they need to release some demons or something. When that’s the case, one or the other has to walk away unless and until the partner is ready. I think when it’s really there and it’s really “The One” they both know, but everything happens in it’s own time, as it should. When things are ready, hopefully both parties can come back to each other and move on.
I firmly believe that if you have cookie cutter ideas about how relationships should work, and those ideas govern your actions, you are selling yourself short. You could possibly be costing yourself the relationship that is meant for you. Every relationship is different, be the differences subtle or blatant. When you aren’t busy trying to make the relationship conform to your ideals, you never know where it will take you. Certainly i believe things “should” happen a certain way, but what if i am still happy when they happen differently? He and she could have been happy, delighted even. She’d seen his worse, he’d seen how he’d hurt her. Lesson learned.
Hi, my name is Marla, i am an optimist, and i believe in loving without fear and constraint. 🙂
November 4, 2009 @ 10:48 am
Whew! Trying to keep up w/ this maze commenting format gave me a headache! I can’t figure out who to respond to. 🙂
November 4, 2009 @ 11:08 am
No. Cheating is cheating. That’s a Character issue. Period.
November 4, 2009 @ 11:52 am
HO was in remission! LOL–
November 8, 2009 @ 6:44 pm
Yeah. That’s why you gotta watch these hoes..lol.
Bond. BlkBond.
November 8, 2009 @ 6:49 pm
Yeah, See…you on to something. Something about about a insightful and articulate woman that makes me get excited. Good points.
Bond.