Last Thursday I was so involved in a post-dinner conversation, I found myself driving out of my way, past my girl's job as if she was in my car. When I socialize in DC, I sometimes pick her up from her office so we don't have to fool with two cars. And even though she wasn't with me, I was so involved in my phone conversation, I drove to her job anyway.
If the behavior is judged by the response, I guess it could appear that I'm intentionally flirting. However, my intention isn't to flirt or gain anything except an experience. So when I'm somewhere waiting for friends and a man starts making conversation, I am interested in who he is, not seeing him naked. When I ask questions of a suitor's relative, I sincerely want to hear more about how they were raised on another continent!
Here's the thing about messages: We send them even when we don't intend to. We live in a world where women don't smile and many are downright unfriendly. While those women might feel like they don't owe men, or the world, a smile or even a soft facial expression, a hard one also sends a message. So it's no wonder that these hard-faced women are treated as such. Not that it's an excuse for poor treatment from strangers, but I know that when man, woman, or child greets me with a knitted brow and/or scowl, it doesn't put me in a good place.
In the spirit of YOLO, I encourage readers, men and women, to think plessant thoughts and let those thoughts show on their faces. I promise you, people will be nicer--not everyone but you will receive a favorable response from most. I am not an intentional flirt. I ginuinely like people--especially NEW people who have interesting stories and perspectives.
That said, for the life of me, I don't completely get the benfits of women walking around looking like they hate the world. It damned sure doesn't stop men from hitting on them.