Change Clothes

So I was minding my business, giving fuel to my two new obsessions:  Make-up and YouTube, and I discovered Montana Deleon.  I watched several of her make-up videos before I read any of the comments.  Based on some of the things people were saying, I went to Google.  She seemed to have been a completely different person before.  When I saw her before (nakedness aside), and see her in videos now, she is different.  She was pretty before and she's pretty now.  But there's something...

SoJo once saw a picture of a young woman and said her eyes look unsure.  I won't say Montana's eyes looked unsure before.  But, in the recent videos I've seen, her eyes seem happier and freer. 

 

Going beyond that, some of the comments got me to thinking.  If I ran across someone like her (and yes, I run across all kinds), would I accept her as a changed woman? 

People have a lot of trouble with change.  Some of the comments left on the video show that people don't want her to be anything but what she was.  They want her to remain as the naked chick with five kids by five different dudes.  And even when SHE chooses to do the work to become something else, some refuse to accept it.

When people won't accept you making positive life changes, it's usually because they are getting something from you being the old you.  Even if it's just to be able to point and laugh and place themselves on a higher moral ground, they're getting something.  And when people are quick to remind you where you came from and what you used to be, it can also be because if YOU are able to change you outlook and way of being, then they probably could too.  And you probably are stronger than they are.  Folks don't like that.

I can't imagine it's easy to stay 'changed' with all the nay sayers.  If you are surrounded by people constantly telling you that you are who you were, a person without strength will likely fall back into old comfortable patterns, proving nay sayers correct.  If she were attributing her change to religion, nobody would blink.  They'd accept her testimony and pray for her.  But since she isn't attributing it to religion, it must not be real.  People are a mess!

After giving it a bit of thought, I believe I would accept the change, with caution.  For example, if she had done something to me or anyone close to me, naw.  She'd forever stay at arm's length.  But if I met her today, kicked it, then found out what she used to be, I'd be cool.  I'd also be super protective if anyone else came to me trying to 'out' her.  Weird? 

What do y'all think?